Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Surprised By Motherhood

One of my favorite bloggers, Lisa-Jo Baker (and I almost said friend, because honestly when you're a part of her community she makes you feel that way) wrote a book, “Surprised By Motherhood” and it comes out today. I read the first three chapters and they were amazing. I get to read the rest of it when my amazon pre-order shipment comes. I will impatiently wait until tomorrow or possibly Thursday for it to arrive. http://lisajobaker.com/surprised-by-motherhood/

In the meantime, Lisa-Jo asked women to write on their blogs what has surprised us about motherhood. Here is what has surprised me about motherhood:


First, I have a secret.....I never really wanted kids. I didn't think I'd have any. But one day I got a negative pregnancy test (wasn't trying) and I felt....disappointed. I was surprised. I was surprised that my so-not-a-kid-person self would be disappointed to receive a “not yet” from a pregnancy test. And is that a tear?! Yes, I even mourned the loss of this child that never even was. This dream of a child I conjured in my head. I was surprised I wanted to be a mom. That's when my husband and I started really talking about our future as parents.

I had/have a number of medical conditions that caused doctors to tell us it may not happen and if it does it will take a while and/or be a difficult pregnancy and delivery. Well we got pregnant on our first try! Surprise! And it was a difficult pregnancy and delivery (68 hour labor....yes....that happened).


I was surprised I did it. That I could do it. After everything the doctors told me, after every anxious, paranoid thought that ran through my mind, after all the sleepless nights, I did it.
I went to school for 20 years and received two degrees with honors. After ALL that work, years and years of work, I was surprised to realize that I consider my son to be my greatest accomplishment.

During my pregnancy and especially after, I was surprised to find how deep love goes. I could never, ever, possibly imagine loving someone the way I love my son. There is no explaining it. It changed me. And somehow I fall more in love with him everyday. Just when you think you couldn't love someone more, you do. I am surprised at how much I kiss him – sometimes just to get a whiff of that amazing scent (seriously, can we find a way to bottle that?)


I was also surprised to find how all-consuming it is. There is no break. No off-switch. No spring break or summer vacation. Even when my husband and I go on a rare date, I still worry about him, think about him, talk about him. I continue to be surprised at how this so-not-a-kid-person could want to spend so much time with a kid. As much as I ache for a break at times, if I'm away from him for a few hours I miss him. Really.

There are new surprises everyday. His first smile, the first time he rolled over (naked), his first tooth, the first time he crawled (naked), the first time he laughed, the first time he pulled himself up (naked), the first time he said mama, the first time he walked (naked), the first time he exclaimed, “I did it!” I feel so proud of him everyday. (I also feel frustrated, overwhelmed, joyful, and about 50 other emotions in the course of a day).

I've learned that you can't know what the future holds because motherhood never stops surprising you. I was all excited for today, to write this blog and launch my own project-- “365 Days to a more Fulfilling Life” (found here: http://learningtogrowdaringtolove.blogspot.com/2014/04/365-days-to-more-fulfilling-life.html) and then in the middle of the night my son woke up with a 103.4 fever, the highest it's ever been and I. Was. Terrified. Motherhood is not something you can learn in books, it's something you learn on the job. You could read in a book what to do if your child has a high fever, but it's another thing completely to feel your too-warm baby and see 103.4 staring back at you on the thermometer.


Not knowing what the next day or even the next hour will bring can be exhilarating or terrifying. But I am trying to live in the moment. To enjoy it, savor it, count my blessings and thank God for them. Motherhood is full of surprises and I take them – good or bad – one day at a time.   


365 Days to a more Fulfilling Life



This year during Lent I decided to try something new. I found a list of spiritual practices and did one each day. I enjoyed the list so much, I didn't want it to end when Lent was over. But I wanted the list to incorporate other aspects of life as well, not just spirituality. I wanted to follow a list that would make life more fulfilling and enjoyable. So I created this list. It starts on April 20, 2014 and ends April 19, 2015. This is a list I am going to do my best to stick with and I'm hoping others will join me. Following the Lenten list was fulfilling, but would have been even more so if I had been following it with a group.

If you are interested in joining me in the this year-long project, here's some information before you get started.
  • The list begins with “Attend an Easter Service” but it is not an exclusively Christian list. You will find holy days from many of the major world religions on the list.
  • You do not have to stick with the order exactly as it's presented, but some days are date-specific, such as August 10th's “Check out tonight's super-moon.” Obviously life happens and you won't be able to do everything on the list-- for instance you have to go to a wedding on the day it says, “play golf.” If you have a completely full day or an emergency and you don't get to that arts and crafts project, it's understandable. If you miss a day, a week or even a month, don't beat yourself up, just pick it back up when you're ready.
  • Due to medical conditions and physical limitations not everyone will be able to do everything on this list (like ice skating). Please don't attempt anything you aren't able to do.
  • Each month includes, “Do one random act of kindness.” These are for you to decide. Some examples would include: paying the toll for the person behind you, getting someone coffee who isn't expecting it, making your partner breakfast in bed, etc...
  • There is also a charitable donation day every month. I know everyone is in different financial situations, please give what you are able, even it's $5.
  • Some items will need planning, so make sure you read ahead.
  • At the end of each month there is a writing exercise. Just sit down and write anything that comes to mind on that word. Don't edit it; just write for five minutes. You don't have to show it to anyone; it's just for you to reflect on.
  • I hope this list brings you a more fulfilling life. Enjoy and God bless! 

       April

    20- Attend an Easter Service.
    21- Write about where you think this list will take you and how it will change you.
    22- Watch funny videos on youtube
    23- Do something nice for a secretary (if you don't know one, do something nice for someone else).
    24- Write yourself three letters, one to be opened in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years. Write where you think you'll be by that time. Ask yourself questions.
    25- Do a random act of kindness
    26- Exercise 3x for 10 minutes throughout the day. (30 minutes total)
    27- Learn more about Passover (the Jewish holiday that just passed).
    28- Don't compare yourself to anyone else today.
    29- Buy an extra umbrella and give it to someone who doesn't have one. If it's not raining today, save this one for a rainy day.
    30- Write for five minutes on the word: “family.”

    May

    1- Learn more about May Day.
    2- Post status: “What's the funniest movie you've ever seen?” Choose one from the replies and watch one of them.
    3- Do nothing for 5 minutes.
    4- Grab a paper and pen. Write down the first 10 things that come to mind: What's most important to you?
    5- Happy Cinco de Mayo. Have a Mexican feast and learn more about Mexico.
    6- Thank a nurse.
    7- Write someone a letter.
    8- Eat vegetarian today.
    9- Know that country you've heard of, know nothing about and couldn't even place on a map? Look it up, learn about it.
    10- Play in the dirt/Garden
    11- Dance today and thank the mothers in your life.
    12- Find time to relax today, even if you have to hide in the bathroom to do so.
    13- Pretend the power is out. Use electricity only when necessary (fridge, medical items)...
    14- Learn more about Vesak. Meditate or visit a Buddhist Temple.
    15- Buy bubbles and sidewalk chalk.... play with them, then leave the rest on the sidewalk with a sign that reads: “free—enjoy spring!”
    16- Bake a cake from scratch.
    17- Write down where you see yourself in 5 years. If you have a partner, ask them to do the same. Talk about it.
    18- Don't multitask technology (no playing on your phone/computer while watching TV)
    19- Learn more about those that are differently-abled (blind, deaf, paralyzed...)
    20- Do a random act of kindness
    21- Clean out your closet, junk drawer, basement... wherever your dumping ground may be.
    22- Put money in your savings account.
    23- Find something cool to do in the next town, city, or state. Go do it.
    24- Play ball with friends or go to the batting cages.
    25- Pray for children, particularly missing children and victims of violence.
    26- Pray for soldiers, veterans and their families. Pray for victims of war. Pray for peace.
    27- Donate to your favorite charitable organization.
    28-Give urself, a grammar refresher too make; sure your using the write words and punctuation? :)
    29- Go for a walk and introduce yourself to a neighbor.
    30- Tell someone stories from your childhood.
    31- Write for five minutes on the word: “happiness.”

    June

    1- Donate diapers, wipes or formula to someone in need.
    2- Draw the Divine, then look up “God” artwork and see how other people imagine the Divine.
    3- Think about everything you throw away today—could it be recycled or donated? Are there reusable alternatives?
    4- Buy yourself some new sheets.
    5- Watch youtube videos that teach the basics of a foreign language.
    6- Go to the library.
    7- Host a pot luck meal and ask friends to bring a dish from their heritage-- celebrate diversity deliciously.
    8- Notice where God is working in your life.
    9- Go outside, look up at the sky, look around and find something of beauty you haven't noticed before.
    10- Read a best seller.
    11- Set a goal, write down the steps you need to take, start today.
    12- What's that thing you remember being bad at but haven't tried in a while? Try it again.
    13- Watch improv everywhere videos on youtube.
    14- Go on a fancy date or a night on the town with friends.
    15- Thank the fathers in your life.
    16- No added sugar/artificial sweetener day.
    17- Learn more about where your clothes came from.
    18- Do a random act of kindness
    19- Read at a local library (either read aloud to kids or just something to yourself)
    20- Learn more about the issues in West Virginia.
    21- Play a game you loved as a kid (dodgeball, kickball, bells out, laser tag) – Enjoy Summer!
    22- Plant something (either literally or creatively)
    23- Leave a gift card at the gas pump.
    24- Eat vegan today
    25- Donate your old magazines
    26- Go on a picnic, look at the clouds.
    27- Watch one of your favorite shows.
    28- Go to a game-- whether it's Little League or Major League (or watch one on TV).
    29- Learn more about Ramadan. Fast for one meal.
    30- Write for five minutes on the word: “adventure.”


    July

    1- What are the funniest memories you can think of? Share one with somebody.
    2- Buy someone flowers
    3- Go on a weekend trip. If you can't afford it, look at pictures of a foreign country and learn more about their culture.
    4- Enjoy fireworks
    5- Ride on something you don't usually ride on (bike, skates, bus, train, boat)
    6- Do a random act of kindness
    7- Leave your comfort zone today
    8- Take a walk, really notice things
    9- Thank your favorite teacher
    10- Drink only water as your beverage today
    11- Research the difference among: conventional, organic, and local foods.
    12- Spend time with friends or family
    13- Say sorry for something you've done in the distant or recent past
    14- Get a map of the U.S.A., close your eyes, point. Learn more about that state.
    15- Grab paper and pen, set a timer for 5 minutes; write down what you are thankful for.
    16- Read “Half the Sky” or another book that will change your world view (if you aren't much of a reader, it's now a documentary).
    17- Contemplate: If you had to get a tattoo, what would it be? Why? Draw it.
    18- Write a letter to a child (they like the attention).
    19- Go (mini) golfing
    20- Start a DIY project (do-it-yourself)
    21- Pray for the people that are the most challenging for you to love.
    22- Forgive someone.
    23- Try a new food.
    24- No processed food day
    25- Go to a religious service outside your own faith this weekend.
    26- Host a charity car wash or other function (if you really can't plan something like this, encourage others to join you in donating to charity on the 29th).
    27- Watch your favorite childhood movie.
    28- Reconnect with your partner (or other close friend/family member).
    29- Learn about Eid al-Fitr. Give to charity (perhaps the money you raised on the 26th?)
    30- Don't go on the internet today unless you absolutely have to.
    31- Write for five minutes on the word: “healing.”

    August

    1- Read some jokes and tell one.
    2- Be kind to your body (treat yourself to a massage, stretch, take a bubble bath).
    3- Exercise outside
    4- Go to a one-time ceramics class (or a Color-Me-Mine sort of place).
    5- Snail mail a birthday card.
    6- Eat a Popsicle/freeze pop/water ice...
    7- Do a random act of kindness
    8- Read the local paper and pray for the people and situations.
    9- Go to the beach or a pool (or just splash in the bath tub).
    10- Check out the super-moon tonight.
    11- Learn more about plastic island (The Great Pacific Garbage Patch)
    12- Buy something for someone who isn't expecting it.
    13- Go to the magazine rack, pick one at random. Read it, learn something new.
    14- Use less water today.
    15- Buy a dozen flowers and hand them out to random people, say something nice.
    16- Do something that makes you smile.
    17- Enjoy your food! Don't scarf it down or eat on the go. Savor it.
    18- Give thanks for love.
    19- You know that thing you've always been meaning to try? Get started!
    20- Ask your friends to tell you about their faith.
    21- Do something kind for a senior citizen.
    22- Move your furniture, attempt feng shui... or at least dust.
    23- Go on a day trip.
    24- Watch old family videos or pull out the slide projector.
    25- Check out stumbleupon.com
    26- If possible, find out what your grandparents/ great-grandparents did for a living.
    27- Pull up a map of Asia, close your eyes, point to a country. Learn more about it.
    28- You know that item that's been on your to-do list forever? (organize box of old photos, clean the garage..) Do it!
    29- Set this as your status: “What is your favorite charity?” Donate to one of them.
    30- Challenge yourself today.
    31- Write for five minutes on the word, “wholeness.”

    September

    1- Host a get-together or take food to the one you're invited to.
    2- Light a candle. Watch it for 5 minutes. Try not to think sbout anything else.
    3- Know that bad habit you've been meaning to quit? (smoking, knuckle cracking, gossiping) Today's Day 1. Congrats, Good Luck.
    4- Listen to a musical artist you've never listened to before.
    5- Do a chore for a neighbor (carry groceries, mow lawn, rake leaves)
    6- Visit a historical site.
    7- Spend time with grandparents or reminiscing about them.
    8- Look into composting.
    9- Check out old files on your computer (papers you wrote in college, old pictures or videos).
    10- Forgive your past.
    11- Try your hand at something creative like: painting, drawing, sculpting, knitting, sowing, quilting, paper mache, scrapbooking, woodworking, etc...
    12- Google “art” and find your new favorite artist.
    13- Talk to someone you might not have talked to before.
    14- Give thanks for miracles.
    15- Donate to a children's charity.
    16- Read an old journal or start writing one (at least one entry).
    17- Eat breakfast food for dinner.
    18- Do a random act of kindness
    19- Take 10 minutes for yourself today.
    20- Go to a wine or food tasting (do chocolate tastings exist?)
    21- Go for an evening walk.
    22- Google “funny.” Enjoy what you find, share the laughs.
    23- Enjoy Fall!
    24- Educate yourself on racism.
    25-Go on pinterest.com and see what all the fuss is about or make a board if you are already a pinner.
    26- Learn more about Native American history and culture.
    27- Go pumpkin/apple picking (if you live somewhere that doesn't have this, find something fun to do in your town).
    28- Bake a pie.
    29- If you have kids, do some arts and crafts, if not, do some arts and crafts.
    30- Write for 5 minutes on the word: “excitement.”


    October

    1- Encounter an animal today (maybe not a bear...perhaps a turtle).
    2- Consider switching something to organic.
    3- Celebrate love
    4- Learn about Yom Kippur and Eid Al-adha. Pray, repent, give food to those in need.
    5- Buy an outfit/item of clothing that makes you feel great.
    6- Donate to a foreign cause.
    7- Go somewhere beautiful
    8- Call an old friend
    9- Get a map of South America, close your eyes, point. Learn more about that country.
    10- Practice an attitude of gratitude. Say thanks for everything you have, even simple things like working lights and an extra roll of toilet paper.
    11- Go to a museum.
    12- Do your best to get 8 hours of sleep.
    13- Learn more about your ancestry/culture.
    14- Get creative with food today.
    15- Learn more about learning disabilities.
    16- Pray for the people and situations in the news.
    17- Ask your friends what causes are most important to them.
    18- Think of someone who has done a lot for you. Ask them to dinner.
    19- Try a form of exercise you've never tried before.
    20- Congratulate yourself for making it half way through the list!
    21- Take a bath-- dim the lights, put on relaxing music, use scented bath oil or salts, enjoy. (A long shower is fine too).
    22- Look for ways you can use less electricity (turn off lights when not in the room, unplug chargers when not in use, etc)
    23- Educate yourself about Diwali and celebrate it if possible.
    24- Do an arts and crafts project or bake something.
    25- Go to a thrift shop.
    26- Check out pictures/videos of the Aurora Borealis (Northern Lights)
    27- Do a random act of kindness
    28- Enjoy the leaves...rake them, take a walk in them...if there aren't any, look at pictures of leaves or make some leaf art.
    29- Write for five minutes on the word: “live (or life)”
    30- Play a harmless prank on someone who would appreciate it (example: put a 7 foot blow up Santa in someone's bathroom).
    31- Dress up for Halloween.


    November

    1- Rent a movie, have a low-key night in.
    2- Exercise while watching a show or while doing something else.
    3- Donate to a national non-profit.
    4- Vote.
    5- Give a kid a dollar for their piggy bank.
    6- Celebrate life.
    7- Go on an adventure outside.
    8- Have a painting party or just spend time with friends.
    9- Read a religious/spiritual article.
    10- Invest in a better pillow (or if yours in already awesome, upgrade something else).
    11- Bake your own bread
    12- Do a crossword puzzle
    13- Check out freecycle
    14- Smile at everyone you encounter
    15- Make a Thanksgiving centerpiece
    16- Do a jigsaw puzzle
    17- Learn more about endangered species
    18- Do something silly today
    19- Read the comics
    20- Eat gluten free today
    21- Clean off/out your nightstand
    22- Go ice skating
    23- Donate to the local food pantry or soup kitchen
    24- Take five minutes to just notice your breathing
    25- Be more open minded today; put yourself in others' shoes.
    26- Teach yourself how to do something using youtube, ehow, wikihow...
    27- Give thanks
    28- Do a random act of kindness
    29- Hug your loved ones and tell them you love them
    30- Write for five minutes on the word: “giving.”

    December

    1- Check out etsy.com, consider ordering something to support a small business.
    2- It's Giving Tuesday-- donate to charity
    3- Pull up a map of Europe, close your eyes, point to a country, learn more about it.
    4- Donate a toy to a children's home or a family in need (If you're on a budget, Dollar stores usually have dollar toys and Toys for Tots bins).
    5- Do a science experiment like you did when you were a kid (with a kid is even better)
    6- Celebrate St. Nicholas Day
    7- Look at pictures/video of the universe and marvel at its awe-someness.
    8- Set this as your status: “What was your favorite book as a child?” or “What is your child's favorite book?” Choose one from the replies and buy it for a child.
    9- Find a new recipe and try it out.
    10- Make sure you have some fun today!
    11- Challenge your friends to a contest of some sort.
    12- Make shadow puppets
    13- Do something silly like sing karaoke or play bingo.
    14- Look into eco-friendly wrapping options.
    15- Do a random act of kindness
    16- Pray for the people and situations on a news site or your facebook feed
    17- Listen to a genre of music you don't think you'd like.
    18- Reread your favorite book.
    19- Eat comfort food. Don't worry about the calories.
    20- Put money in your piggy bank; start one if you don't have one.
    21- Enjoy Winter!
    22- Take a walk outside.
    23- What comes to mind when you hear the word activist? Contemplate on your results.
    24- Attend a Christmas Eve service or learn more about the true meaning of Christmas.
    25- If you are Christian, make sure to include Jesus in your day and have fun. If you are not, have a nice day while all those Christians are at their family gatherings. :)
    26- Learn more about Kwanzaa.
    27- Floss.
    28- Buy someone a meal.
    29- Don't multi-task today.
    30- Write for five minutes on the word: “health.”
    31- Think back on the past year. Learn from your failures, forgive yourself for where you fell short, say thank you for your blessings, take a moment to revel in the goodness.

    January

    1- Set a resolution that serves you that you'll actually keep.
    2- Check out edx.org
    3- Read your friends' blogs.
    4- Use a crock pot if you have one, if not, make homemade soup.
    5- Look into classes for something you're interested in.
    6- Attempt Yoga, Pilates, Tai Chi or Qigong
    7- Give someone that gift card you'll never use (maybe a broke college student or a struggling family)
    8- Visit your local recycling center or just learn more about recycling/upcycling/freecycling
    9- LAUGH!
    10- Do something nerdy today.
    11- Eat five servings of fruits and veggies.
    12- Do someone's chore.
    13- Meditate for 5 minutes.
    14- Make someone a meal.
    15- Go for a walk outside.
    16- Pull up a map of Africa, close your eyes and point. Learn more about that country.
    17- Learn a new word today.
    18- Turn the heat down one degree.
    19- MLK Jr. Day-- Volunteer somewhere.
    20- Get crafty!
    21- Don't consume caffeine or alcohol today.
    22- No complaining today.. Every time you feel negativity surfacing, replace it with positivity.
    23- Do something local (go see a game, a band, etc).
    24- Do a random act of kindness.
    25- Go to the movies or rent one.
    26- Take the Myers-Briggs personality test.
    27- Donate supplies to a local school.
    28- Learn basic ASL signs.
    29- Say a prayer .
    30- Clean the laundry room/area (if you go to the laundromat, leave a couple extra quarters on the machine).
    31- Write for five minutes on the word: “faith.”

    February

    1- Watch the sun rise or set
    2- Watch Groundhog Day
    3- Make someone a heartfelt gift
    4- Learn more about civil rights
    5- Do a random act of kindness
    6- Wear Red, learn more about heart health
    7- Read or listen to an opinion different from your own
    8- Remember a loved one who has passed. Ask others to tell you stories about them.
    9- Try a guided meditation
    10- Exercise for 30 minutes
    11- Call or visit someone you haven't seen in a while
    12- Make Valentines
    13- Read some quotes about peace and pray for it.
    14- Give Valentines out to everyone you encounter.
    15- Educate yourself on Nirvana Day. Meditate or visit a Buddhist Temple today.
    16- Donate blood or bone marrow or donate money to a disaster organization like ARC or UMCOR
    17- Eat Doughnuts or Pancakes
    18- Make time for spiritual practice today.
    19- Learn more about Chinese culture, Happy New Year!
    20- Cut down on junk mail. Cancel subscriptions to catalogs you never use or also get through email.
    21- Know that person you've been meaning to see? Go see them!
    22- Don't shop today.
    23- Build a fort or something else that reminds you of childhood.
    24- Listen to sacred music.
    25- Watch a movie-- let someone else choose it.
    26- Ask an older family member to tell you stories you've never heard before.
    27- Write for five minutes on the word: “regrets.”
    28- Have a themed night.

    March

    1- Find a new recipe and try it out
    2- Learn more about women's issues and donate to a non-profit that serves women.
    3- Watch a documentary.
    4- Post a message on an old friend's Facebook wall (or call, text, send a card).
    5- Celebrate Purim
    6- Don't use disposable products today.
    7- Pick up the check for someone at a restaurant or diner.
    8- What's the funniest movie you've ever seen? Watch it.
    9- Donate time, money or items to a local charity/religious organization.
    10- Play hide and go seek.
    11- Listen to a CD/album from your youth.
    12- Sing in the shower...go on...belt it out.
    13- Clean out your car.
    14- Go bowling.
    15- Set status, “What is your favorite book/blog/video game/movie/TV show?” (whichever you are most interested in): choose one to read/play/watch.
    16- Make a photo album or a DVD of home movies.
    17- Go for a walk in a park.
    18- Support a local business.
    19- Learn something new.
    20- Enjoy Spring!
    21- Play board games.
    22- Write a bucket list and check out bucketlist.org
    23- Go to a comedy club.
    24- Spring clean your facebook friend list.
    25- Educate yourself on past slavery.
    26- Do a random act of kindness.
    27- Check your blood pressure and BMI: Are they where you want them to be?
    28- Educate yourself on current slavery.
    29- Give sincere compliments.
    30- Read a religious/spiritual magazine, book or blog.
    31- Write for five minutes on the word: “soul.”

    April

    1-Play with play doh
    2- Wash someone's feet
    3- Face a fear.
    4- Have a low-key day with family.
    5-Tell someone about your faith.
    6- Educate yourself on sexism.
    7-Pull up a map of the world, close your eyes, point to a country, learn more about it.
    8- Donate to goodwill, church flea market or thrift shop.
    9- Pull out your old yearbooks (or pictures) and reminisce.
    10- Do a random act of kindness.
    11- Go hiking on a trail.
    12- Make someone a card.
    13- Re-try a food you remember not liking.
    14- Think about the issue you feel most strongly about-- now research and argue the other side to yourself. How did it make you feel? What did you learn? Did it change the way you feel about the people who hold a differing opinion?
    15- Pick a random friend and compliment them.
    16- Turn off the water while brushing your teeth.
    17- Watch a funny movie with a group of friends (or family).
    18- Write for five minutes on the word: “Goal”
    19- Reflect on your favorite moments from the list, how it has changed your life and how you want to incorporate items from the list into your life.





    Celebrate! You've completed the list!! 

    Saturday, March 29, 2014

    Five Minute Friday-- MIGHTY

    This is another Lisa-Jo Five Minute Friday (write for 5-minutes on the word she gives, no editing).

    But before I begin.... she has a book coming out and if the rest of it is as good as the three chapters I read, this will be going on my "beloved book list."  

    http://lisajobaker.com/  


    OK-- Mighty. 

    First thing that comes to mind is the shirt my brother and sister-in-law just bought for my son.  It has a picture of a dinosaur on it and it reads, "Be Mighty."  And boy is he mighty.  He fills a mighty part of my life with his mighty presence.  He is a beautiful masterpiece of our mighty God and I thank God for allowing me the mighty honor to be his mother.  

    On a completely different note--- the other thing that came to mind when I thought of mighty is my next blog post.  I have been working on a project that I am going to launch very soon, possibly even today.  I am just trying to figure out the right name for it.  The project is a mighty undertaking and I'm hoping others will join me in it.  It is a 365-day list filled with prompts that will lead to a more fulfilling life.  

    Check back for that blog post very soon.  I am excited to share it with you.  


    Saturday, March 22, 2014

    Five Minute Friday-- JOYfully Simple Moments

    Another Lisa-Jo, 5 minute Friday.... http://lisajobaker.com/  (she has an amazing book coming out--check it out)
    except I didn't get a minute to sit at my computer yesterday-- you all know what that's like!
    Write for five minutes on the word given. 


    Joy.

    When I think of joy I think of that overwhelming feeling you get when something wonderful happens and you you feel so overwhelmed with emotion you don't think your mortal body can contain it.   Those big moments, like when you marry your soul mate, get a positive pregnancy test, graduate from school.... 

    but we are cheating ourselves if we think those are the only times we feel joy. I realized this week we can feel a profound sense of joy in simple, everyday moments.  For example, I felt a peaceful content joy when I was sitting in bed holding my sleeping husband's hand while nursing my son.  It was so simple but so wonderful to just enjoy that moment.   We look back on life and know we were happy, but sometimes we can't remember specifically what made us happy.  These moments are fleeting, enjoy them while you can.  




    Sunday, March 9, 2014

    Lover of the Written Word

    You are what you read. Of course books alone do not create a person, but looking at a person's bookshelf can tell you a lot about them. It tells you their interests, their worldview, their sense of adventure, their hobbies, where they are on life's journey...
    My husband calls me a book hoarder; I prefer bookworm, nerd, lover of the written word...

    In one of the books I memorized when I was a kid, Dr. Suess said, 
    “The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.”  I've been an avid reader from a young age, and that message has stayed with me.  

    Here are some titles that have formed me.
                              Books that I picked up and couldn't put down.
                                                      Books that changed me when I read them.



    Not pictured: Holy Stuff of Life by Heather Murray Elkins (I don't have my copy here with me)
    This is not a comprehensive list, I know I've left some out and to those authors (and to you), my apologies!


    Books are windows into the worlds of others.

    Real worlds recorded by people living in them
                         Spiritual worlds we attempt to explain
                            Ancient worlds we research and write about
                                            Fictional worlds we create in our minds.

    Books are snapshots of people's views, stories, lives, horrors, beauty, spirit and so much more.
    Some of us, we love to be a part of that. We love to read, absorb and be changed by others' stories.

    Bookworms, nerds, lovers of the written word, book hoarders...


    Please comment and let me know some of the stories that have shaped you.   

    Friday, February 28, 2014

    Sermon-- Taking Off our Masks and Finding our True Beauty

    This is the sermon I will be giving on Sunday.

    Men-- this sermon is going to sound a lot like it's geared toward the women at first but bear with me because it's a message that you need to hear maybe as much as they do.

    OK girls, ladies, women---

    I don't know about you, but I feel naked without makeup on! I feel exposed if someone sees me without it. I know this is true for a number of us.

    How did we learn this?

    We learned it from our moms, aunts, grandmothers, big sisters, cousins, teachers, mentors, neighbors, role models, who learned it from their moms, aunts, grandmothers,neighbors, mentors....need I go on?

    Remember when we reached each age we'd get to do something new? When we were 10 we could get our ears pierced, when we were 11 we could shave our legs and wear lipstick, at 13 we could wear eye liner and mascara and get our nails done. (Everyone had different rules for different ages of course, but it was about the same because if our friends were doing it, we BEGGED our parents to let us do it too!)

    It went from something fun to experiment with-- trying purple eyeshadow, red lipstick and glitter nail polish-- to a chore we couldn't live without.




    Here are some things I've heard or experienced:

    “I would love to have dinner with you, but that's the night I get my nails done. I really want to see you, but my nails are a mess!” When did how our nails look become more important than relationships?

    Oh no, I woke up late--- I have 15 minutes to get ready!! Brush hair, brush teeth, put on deodorant, makeup and clothes, skip breakfast. When did makeup become more important than sustenance?

    I remember early on in my relationship with my husband, he stopped by unannounced and I was still in my pajamas—my hair was frizzy and I had no makeup on. I nearly died of embarrassment! He claims to like me better without makeup...I still can't figure out if he really means it...I mean, really, have you SEEN me without makeup???

    Being without makeup is something many women can't even fathom!

    Let's think about the story of Adam and Eve. After Eve eats the fruit, the story goes like this:

    “Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made loincloths for themselves.
    They heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden at the time of the evening breeze, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man, and said to him, “Where are you?” He said, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.” God said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?”






    Eve was not born knowing she was naked, she learned she was naked and was ashamed. Just like Eve, we girls are not born knowing our faces are naked, we learn that they are by looking up to the women in our lives. The women that hide themselves behind their masks of products.

    While writing this sermon I came across a video of four women who were asked to be a part of a Photoshop experiment. Four women modeled in a professional photo shoot and then were photo shopped, as if the pictures were going into a magazine. After seeing the pictures they were shocked at how the photos didn't look like them. This is the insight they gained from the experience:

    “You look at these ads in magazines and you see these women that look absolutely flawless, and you think, “I wish I could look like that, but who really looks like this?”

    “We live in an interesting time where we feel like we have to make people look like the standard that's not attainable for anybody.”

    “I think something that everyone should keep in mind is it's natural to be critical of yourself, it's natural to be uncomfortable or awkward. But you have to know that the ideal just doesn't exist.”

    “Instead of looking at other things, and trying to aspire to be something else
    We should just be comfortable in who we are and just try to be our best selves.”

    (here's the video)

    http://www.buzzfeed.com/andrewgauthier/watch-four-women-react-to-being-photoshopped-into-cover-mode




    The “models” that girls and women look up to are not real. We are killing ourselves trying to achieve an unattainable goal.

    Please do not think I am saying wearing makeup is all bad; but hiding behind it is. If we are not able to leave the house without it, perhaps we need to take a look at what we value.

    Do we value outer beauty or inner?

    Do we spend more time working on our outer beauty or our inner?

    Do we claim to not have time in the day to read the Bible, do devotionals, pray, volunteer or call a sick friend and then spend an hour or more on getting ready –doing our hair, makeup, nails, and choosing what to wear? Some men are just as bad in this department!


    Lent is a time to go inward... to look inside ourselves, to work on our inner beauty and our relationship with God. Lent is a time of cleansing and renewal for our mind, body and soul.


    Since we've already been talking about our physicality, let's continue with the body-- It's so important to care for our bodies, so that they can be the optimal vessels to carry out God's will. How many times has a person health, weight, or being out of shape stopped them from doing more with their life? Stopped them from going on mission trips, volunteering in certain capacities, help around the church, playing with the kids in their life, etc?




    It's important for us to keep up with exercise and to eat right. Some denominations go vegan during Lent as a way to cleanse their bodies and purify themselves. In traditions where people “give something up” for lent, I've mostly heard of people giving up food. Chocolate, soda, pizza, meat on Fridays...and so on. This idea of cleansing the body is deep in our Christian roots. Our minds, bodies and souls are all connected. When we begin to cleanse one, others will follow and be affected as well.

    Did you ever hear the phrase, “Change your mind and your life will follow?” It's because the mind is a powerful thing. Learning is a wonderful thing. We should all strive to learn something new everyday. Education opens doors we didn't even know existed. Learning new things opens the world to us and allows us to discover more about God and each other.

    We are all creatures of habit. Much of the way we live is out of habit. So if we want to lead better lives, we have to change our habits. We can adopt habits that are more in tune with God. To change our habits we must cleanse our minds. Meditation can help with this. There goes that word again! Some people love it, some people hate it. If you don't think you have time for it, you do.

    Set an alarm for three times a day. Sit in silence for 1-5 minutes to begin with. Are you like me and can absolutely not clear your mind? Here's some tips I've pick up along the way--- focus on a word, like, “peace” “harmony” “love” “light” “mercy” “compassion,” and repeat that word.

    Focus on your breath, just breathe in and breathe out normally, and simply notice it. It's a reminder to slow down and remember the most simple things of life and be grateful for them. Another kind of meditation is guided meditation-- these are wonderful if you can find the right ones. They help you to go deeper into yourself and tap into your innate wisdom.





    Which brings us to soul. It's time to connect with God. Lent is a reminder to tune out the world and tune in with God. Talk with God. Say thank you, say sorry, say what am I supposed to do now? Ask God how to deal with the difficulties of life. Ask God to break you of your bad habits. Ask God to show you how to incorporate better habits into your life. Ask God how to stop doing those things that hurt you and others. Ask God what you can do to better love yourself and others. Ask God what it is you should be learning next. Go deep inside this Lent. Learn more about yourself and about God. Don't be afraid to think outside the box.

    Close your eyes--- picture in your mind-- what is God calling you to do this Lent? What does God want you to cleanse? How are you supposed to find renewal?

    At the end of Lent, my hope is that this whole congregation turns into more beautiful people. People who value inner beauty more than outer beauty, people who work on what they look like and feel like on the inside.

    That inner beauty will radiate to the outside and shine more brightly than any makeup we can put on.

    Let's show girls and other women that you don't need makeup to be beautiful. That inner beauty is more important and valuable than outer beauty. When we plaster over ourselves, we're hiding our true selves and our true beauty.

    So next week on the first Sunday of Lent, I hope you'll consider coming bare-faced to church—no makeup-- focusing on inner beauty and showing the next generation of women that they don't have to live behind a mask.

    Thanks be to God. Amen.